Here’s Part 1 of our Best Practices series on the “soft” skills involved in helping your patients and clients get better, and, more importantly, stay better.
Part 2 – all about food – can be found here. Part 3 which focuses on movement can be found here.
Helping someone to change their daily lifestyle choices is often daunting. But here’s the truth: it is an Essential part of any sustainable healing!
We often refer to practitioner skills that build rapport and accountability, inspire action, and give practical tools/ideas for habit change as “soft” skills. But the reality is that nothing about this critical (and often missing!) part of effective health care is easy. As anyone who’s done this work clinically knows, this part of applied functional medicine can be quite hard. Challenging. On many levels, it’s often way harder than the more arms-length, analytical, independent work of diagnosis.
Making sustainable lifestyle choices typically goes against many factors – genetics, family dynamics, ingrained habits, entrenched mindset, high pace of life, demands from both inside and outside their families, lack of time and so on. Most of all, we have to help clients overcome what my friend Pilar Gerasimo calls the “Unhealthy Default Reality” – societal norms which do nothing to promote health, and, instead, set the stage for so many of the chronic dis-ease dynamics our patients and clients struggle with today.
If you want to help your patients to get well and, most importantly, stay well, then you or someone on your clinical team (in-house or out) must do this work. It’s one of the reasons we are so passionate at SAFM about the power of multi-modality teams. Beyond labs, supplements, medications, and other interventions, the ability to help someone make and sustain choices that create optimal health is not optional. Education, inspiration, empowerment, and community. All are essential.
Too often this part of health care is marginalized, and it’s seldom covered in practitioner educational curriculum. At SAFM, it’s a priority. Whether it’s improving what and how they eat, hacking their sleep, finding personalized ways to move more, or feasible tools to manage their stress: these often hold the keys to a successful case outcome.
SAFM practitioners are savvy at lifestyle interventions. And they generously share their ideas and success stories with their peers. The pearls below are just a small, recent sampling of commonplace fare on our Practitioner Forum. This article is Part 1 of a three-part series.
Is your toolbox overflowing with tools like these? Will you add to it right now? Please do.
Our movement for good medicine that actually prevents and reverses chronic disease needs You to be highly capable and confident in facilitating lifestyle change. And your patients are counting on it!

PART 1 – Beverages
People are attached to beverages – the nightly glass of wine, the wake-up cups of coffee, the mid-afternoon pick-me-up soda … here are some solid suggestions for paving the way for an easier transition away from these entrenched habits:
Coffee:
For some, a polyphenol-rich ritual. For others, a “crutch” beverage. People use coffee for comfort, for energy, as part of an ingrained habit (daily Starbucks run, anyone?), to perk up, and – yes – as a daily laxative. Some studies have shown benefits from moderate coffee intake, especially for those who are fast caffeine metabolizers. But for many in our practices, the daily multi-cup coffee habit is disturbing sleep, dysregulating cortisol, and promoting a hypervigilant nervous system. Explore why your patients drink coffee, and where merited, consider one of the modifications below.
Soda replacement:
Often one of the first things that is promoting dis-ease, soda can be a hard habit to break! We look for alternatives that keep the fizzy refreshment but drop the chemicals and sugar load. Offer these “good, better, best” replacements to break this bad habit progressively. It typically takes ~2 months for our taste buds to withdraw from highly sweetened beverages and appreciate rich, natural flavors. Be sure to set patient expectations properly and emphasize the need for persistence and patience. Especially for individuals who are not in the habit of drinking much plain, clean water, it takes time to make this change.
Alcohol:
People use alcoholic beverages to de-stress, to wind down before sleep, as a comforting daily ritual, or for more relaxed socialization. For many people, ocassional, light alcohol intake can be an ongoing part of a healthy lifestyle. But while one is wrestling with chronic dis-ease, patients often benefit from substantially reducing or taking a full, sustained break from alcohol. Help them to reduce their alcohol intake while keeping the meaningful rituals that matter most to them (e.g. the glass, the setting, the relaxation, the sunset, the companionship). The key is not to make the conversation all about deprivation; spice it up with fun, alternative Mocktail options:
Motivate your patients to research mocktail recipes online to find ones that appeal to them. Encourage them to serve beverages in a wine goblet or a Margarita glass to enhance the experience and perhaps increase their sense of belonging or comfort in social settings.
Meal replacement shakes
Don’t be shocked when you hear that healthcare providers and nutritionists are still recommending chemical-laden drinks such as Boost, Slimfast, and Carnation Instant Breakfast shakes, especially post-bariatric surgery and to the elderly, cancer patients, and athletes. Getting your patients off these and on to something nutrient-rich and chemical-poor is a high priority!
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Any non-dairy creamer options that are not nut-based? I have a client who is very sensitive to all nuts including coconut, as well as the related legumes (cannot drink protein drinks with pea-protein for instance). She is trying to cut down on coffee consumption, but would like to continue creamer with her morning coffee. Most of the non-dairy creamers are nut based, so wondering if you have any alternatives to suggest. This is a great guide for substitutions to help with their health journey!
Thank you, very practical recomendations . What about nut milks ? Are they really healthy. I have concerns for such artificial product.
Wonderful!
I love suggesting this, Mixing Tart organic dark Cherry juice with Pellegrino, mineral water. Great for melatonin production and stabilizes histamine very well.
Love this article, just wanted to add there are some newer prebiotic “sodas” that are low sugar and sweetened with stevia by “Olipop” and “Poppi” – more good swaps for those that are soda addicted!
Great article, thank you! I have been using an organic decaf coffee with a little Stevia, organic vanilla and organic canned coconut cream. The only questionable ingredient is the organic Guar Gum in the Coconut cream (I think its is also in Canned Coconut milk). I know nothing about this, are there any negative side effects?